Now, about the ring…
Well, hello, there, darling. What a pretty color you are! Wanna come live with me?
Yes, I’m a dork. I’m a dork with that thing (pointing to the left) as my engagement ring. I got quite a few questions when I first showed y’all this picture, so I’m going to take you through my ring saga, as promised.
First, we went ring shopping together. He liked much more delicate styles than I thought I did, and then so did I. I knew I wanted something classic, not too “blingy,” not too expensive, and meaningful. I have to say, it was great fun showing him things and watching to see his reaction. Anyway, in the end, I pulled together a bunch of links and emailed them to him and figured I’d stay out of it.
Not so much. Something kept bothering me, and I finally put my finger on it: I wasn’t being genuine. I’m not much of a jewelry person. I wear earrings (from my grandmother), a ring (from my mom) and a necklace (from my dad). They’re beautiful, but I could care less about that. I wear them because they’re meaningful to me. You know that ee cummings poem? I carry them with me.
This isn’t the last piece of jewelry I’ll ever have but it is important that it always mean something to me. So, instead of a cool-looking piece of sparkle, I needed to decide what matters most. For me, that was continuity, the physical symbol of “forever and ever,” the personal message that means that we will stick it out.
Also, I like vintage. I like the idea that the things I have lived a life before me, and that they have come to live with me now (yes, I’m a weirdo). I love that my furniture isn’t new (I collect mid-century furniture), that it has a soul (weird, yes), and that it hasn’t affected the world by being manufactured. If that’s what guides what I wear and what I sit on and live with (even my animals are rescues!), then shouldn’t it at least be a consideration now?
I did a search for vintage rings and found Fay Cullen — great selection, great prices, so-so reviews on the ‘net.
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October 20, 2008
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[...] Waffled, flip-flopped, panicked. Screeched my distress at my boyfriend. I cried. Finally chose a ring (which he promptly purchased, unbeknownst to me) and then panicked some more. Ruined his surprise. [...]
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October 29, 2008
[...] We looked at a plain gold band, a simple diamond band, an eternity band and a pave band with diamonds on all three sides (did I mention the 80% discount?) and we decided that the sparkly simple band looked best with my engagement ring. [...]
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November 29, 2008
[...] We looked at a plain gold band, a simple diamond band, an eternity band and a pave band with diamonds on all three sides (did I mention the 80% discount?), and we decided that the sparkly simple band looked best with my engagement ring. [...]
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November 30, 2008
[...] We looked at a plain gold band, a simple diamond band, an eternity band and a pave band with diamonds on all three sides (did I mention the 80% discount?), and we decided that the sparkly simple band looked best with my engagement ring. [...]
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