Sooner or later

Posted on May 15, 2009. Filed under: Uncategorized |

Everything happens to everybody sooner or later if there is time enough.
George Bernard Shaw
Irish dramatist & socialist (1856 – 1950)

With nine days to go, I’m ready to unveil my super-duper effective prioritization technique, the one I use when “if I remember it it’s important” isn’t working (hi, I forgot to order flowers!): Sooner or Later.

I have a thousand things floating in my head, and I find myself feeling frazzled and unable to get anything done because I’m trying to get everything done.  Every bridal site and magazine tells you to make lists, but none of them tell you what to do with them.  Looking at a to-do list a mile long doesn’t make me feel better, it makes me feel worse.  And if I try to put a schedule around everything left to do, I end up losing my shit because we’re behind my schedule (yea, yea, I’m a project manager by training).  As Miss Meatball would say, no bueno.

{Brief aside: I hate running, and if I have to run, I’d prefer to be on a treadmill.  Why?  Because I cannot handle being on a track or trail and seeing how far I have to go.  At least on a treadmill, a mile is just a number.}

So I have this long long list and a headache.  Now what?  I divide everything into two groups (you guessed it): Sooner or Later.  If it has to be done before something else, it’s Sooner.  If it has to be done after something else or I can put it off, it’s Later.  Keeping the categories vague keeps me from getting caught up in the finer details of my organization method.  Organizing can be my main method of procrastination. 🙂

I look at the Sooner list when I have a few minutes to do something; I review the Later list when I feel like I need to do something but really just want to feel like I’m doing something. Ha.

I’ll show you a dump of my Sooner/ Later list below.  If it’s italicized, it’s in progress.  Once it’s finished, I move it to another section because I get no joy from crossing things off a list (though I know some of you do).


Write wedding ceremony
Honeymoon research
Update overall timeline
Timelines for each person
Email photog, hair person
Transfer money into checking account
Paint living room above fireplace
Paint bedroom
Slipcover couch
Cover hot tub
Paint basement floors
Cover unpainted wall in basement kitchen
Adhere wall thing in basement kitchen
Move furniture around
Mow back property
Make signs for rest stops, pointing to ceremony
Paint canvases for above fireplace with our monogram
Figure out where to put family pictures
Finish scanning pictures
Buy pens for crossword puzzles
Print crossword puzzles
Buy more plates and glasses? Need final guest count
Buy candles and matches
Buy trash bags
Buy flowers and centerpieces
Buy ice cream and bowls, plates and cups for rehearsal pizza
Buy sheets for our bedroom and one queen bed
Buy rug for bedroom?
Buy cake mix
White muslin in seating area so people’s feet aren’t in the greenery?
Create ceremony programs (opt)
The main benefit is the ability to ignore some stuff (like everything I have to buy, which I can do in one trip later) and get other stuff done.  I use Evernote because I can access it from my phone when I’m out; the “buy” prefix helps me scan quickly when I’m on a shopping trip.
My wedding planning strategy is really about building coping mechanisms to short-circuit my shit-losing triggers, so my method may not work for you.  Love to cross things off a ginormous to-do list?  More power to ya.  Feeling like your to-do list is growing and itching like poison ivy?  Try this.  It might help.  At the very least, you’re giving yourself permission to NOT think about a few things, and that’s gotta be a good thing.
Any other suggestions for dealing with Wedding Planning Overwhelm?

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funny, i can’t stand running on the treadmill because i feel like i’m not going anywhere, i’m bored because there’s nothing too look at, so i might as well just stop. that’s why i can stand runing on trails a little better (but hardly, not much of a runner)!

So does that mean you had a really long to-do list so you could see the progress you were making? I bet!!

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    I’ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt (and divorce papers) to prove it. Here I am again, pledging my life to my (new) love with eyes wide open (and heart racing) knowing full well how emotionally traumatic this can end… and doing it anyway.


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